The Dust Settles (but the head remains fogged)

I have escaped! I have been in Japan for 5 months this time around. It seems like I never left, except of course, my Japanese ability had diminished to the point of a blundering tourist. I know what I want to say, but the words just don't come out the right way. I have resorted to letting my wife, quiet for so many years in the USA, make all the noise, take care of all the business and belabour me about all the things I am doing wrong. Another person might say I was henpecked. I like to think of it as avoiding responsibility.